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6 Key Steps For A Successful Recovery Process

While anyone can become compulsively obsessed with watching online pornography, to visiting prostitutes regularly or constantly cheating on their partner, if left unchecked this behaviour can become problematic and addictive, resulting in negative and destructive outcomes in one's life.

In order to control and stop any addictive behaviour, a change in habits, actions and behaviours that contribute to the addiction as well as a recovery process is essential.

The Hudson Centre's 6 key steps in the recovery process are:

  1. Admit that the behaviour is out of control and is seriously damaging your life and your family's life
    Admit to yourself that the problem is not in your control.
  2. Developing honesty with self and in time with others will help to build accountability.
  3. Attendance at a 12 step fellowship that focuses on the behaviour you wish to stop.
  4. Start to build a secure network of individuals who will help you deal with the thoughts, feelings and emotions that present in recovery.

Commit to therapy with a qualified professional who can guide you through some of the underlying dynamics at work that have contributed to the behaviour.
The Hudson Centre specialises in the treatment of sexual addiction and has a broad knowledge and experience base to draw upon when treating clients. We integrate the latest theory and approaches for treating problems related to sexual compulsivity or dysfunction. The Hudson Centre offers 8 Breakthrough Programmes, allowing clients to choose their path to recovery.

Being integral, compassionate, honest, young and vibrant, The Hudson Centre brings a new and fresh perspective and approach to recovery.

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Review of NymphomaniacThe Movie

Lars Von Trier's film, Nymphomaniac, explores the themes and behaviours involved with Sex Addiction or nymphomania, through the depiction of the many scenarios and instances that are present for a female sex addict. The central character, Joe, was able to discover the hidden depths of her sexuality to the physical extent of her being and the resulting consequences. The no taboos subjects were expressed through:

  • Domination and submission
  • Pain exchange sex
  • Infidelity
  • Multiple sex partners
  • Exploration of Paedophilia related phantasy
  • Seductive Role Sex
  • Masturbation and Phantasy

Additionally the issues dealing with arousal and pushing the envelope to experience the extreme forms of addicted sexual behaviour were present throughout the film. Despite the protestation of Joe and the literal, historical references to mythological characters depicting the syndrome of nymphomania, the film was able to show how sexual addiction can reduce anyone to a shutdown and emotionless existence ; one where only sex and the need for gratification matters, no matter the cost.

Furthermore, despite the consequences of her actions Joe continued pushing her own limits which mimics the insanity of the sexual addicts behaviour of continuing to do the same behaviour in spite of the same consequences, even while knowing the outcome to be the same or worse. Also, putting herself in vulnerable situation to be exploited or for boundaries to be violated is a theme that exists with female sex addicts. The film is beneficial in demonstrating how extreme the forms of behaviour can be in any form of process addiction and the result leads the individual into a deeply lonely, isolated existence.

The nostalgia trip that Joe takes the viewer on is merely a continuation of her sexual development from Vol. 1. From a sexual addiction perspective the film is a display of how wired the brain can be; in spite of any intervention or perceived help, the situation can be manipulated or set up for a coercion to take place. This was typified in the relationship between the storyteller Joe and the Listener Seligman.

We would like to suggest that one way to watch the film is to go with a friend, debrief after, and allow some process time if any of the themes resonate with you. If you find that you are struggling with any issues that may have surfaced since watching the film and would like to chat with someone, do give us a call.

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A Hudson Centre perspective on Dr Carla Clark's article The truth about porn shrinking the brain

The recent article by Dr. Clark The truth about porn shrinking the brain is a well-crafted account of the effects that porn can have on the brain. Examining the frequency and type in some studies guided the results of the research to indicate that certain areas are connected with porn use and overuse. As a treatment provider, we educate and support individuals with Porn addiction and help to reduce and alleviate the negative effects that an addiction has for an individual.

In our intensive and structured groups, we work with the latest research material and provide educational lectures that inform the individual of the effects that porn has on the brain. Our programs are structured specifically to examine the hidden dynamics as to what type and frequency of porn is being watched and how to promote abstinence and healthy behaviours that free the individual from the destructive effects that porn can have on the brain and the person as a whole.

Many of our clients have remarked that the intensive program and individual therapy was key for them in establishing new behaviours that promote their health and wellbeing. As a result, it gave them a sense of freedom from their porn addiction.

The article itself makes use of the research into the neurotransmitters released and neural pathways in the brain that are primarily involved in the development of a porn addiction. The Hudson Centre promotes the use of educational material from talks, articles and social media information that communicates the impact that porn has on the brain. We offer a three question exploration for anyone who feels that they may struggle with issues related to their porn use and would like to move towards healthier ways of living.

3 key questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is it that arouses me in the porn that I am watching? Is it the behaviour displayed i.e. violent, dominating, Submissive, staged rape, Sexual strangulation, Pre-teen, Same Sex?
  2. When did Porn use begin and has it escalated since I started? Moving from Soft core magazines to video, progressing to hard core internet pornography?
  3. How did my issue come to be internet/magazine pornographic material as opposed to other activities?

If you are struggling to answer any of these questions or would like support in helping to stop problematic porn addiction, please call The Hudson Centre today on 0207 493 4488 and speak to a trained professional.

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